Diario de BabyYin, 25 ene. 22

Prenuptial  

I find it funny that a lot of people dismiss marriage as "just a piece of paper" or manmade. Pretty much everything is a man-made construct, including the language we use, but that does not diminish its importance ;) Are degrees just pieces of paper? Or does that piece of paper either symbolize or certify something important? It serves as a shorthand. There are no assurances in life, but in my view, being willing to marry someone shows this isn't something you're taking lightly and are even considering moving on from. And it comes down to its importance in your eyes. Even if it is meaningless to some, if it matters to you, being in a relationship without it will probably be painful and without security. 

I personally have to have a full commitment to feel truly secure. If they bulk on that I fell they've left the exit option open. I know that this is a passing value, but so is the nucleus that binds society. Those who vehemently disagree only reinforce my point.  

I was also raised to believe you get married and live happily ever after. I do have a good marriage but I still struggle from depression and anxiety. I'm glad you found someone who loves you. Perhaps you can explain to him that marriage is very special to you. Are you able to discuss with him his fears about marriage? 

He has been married twice and I was only married once for a year back in my 20's. I make more than him. I was raised to believe as a woman you have to get married to be happy but also was told by my mom that no one would ever want me. I am 55 now. He now has said he would think about it and it wouldn't be a 100% no to the idea. He wants me happy and he is my emotional support. We live 2 hours away from each other so he gave me the shirt off his back the other day just so when I need a hug I can hug his shirt. I know he loves me and would be devastated if anything ever happened to me.  

He has been burned. My boyfriend has the same problem - he will NEVER get married again, he says! We were raised on propaganda so that when we got pregnant from being in love, we would have a second person to help us raise those children. If he is willing to be your partner in spirit, maybe you can work to accept that. I have my own house, my own money, many friends and activities, so the boyfriend is a romantic partner and entertainment committee for me since I need nothing else really. If you give him time, and be there for him, the way a man's mind works is VERY SLOWLY. If I needed hatlth insurance or a joint bank account with someone, I would find someone else. I was married for 25 years and had the kids, house, hubby but he was not happy and we split. I have never been happier and I think you should just let it ride for a while, especially if he is willing to be monogamous. Marriage is expensive, and divorce is even worse! 

OK. So let him have some time and think about it. Thinking is good. 

As for living happily ever after the wedding, I am sorry, but your partner will still burp and fart and need to rolled over when he snores. There is no magic wand at the marriage ceremony! 

My husband said the same thing when we were first together. two years later he changed his mind. not saying yours will but if he says he'll think on it, then let him think. if you force it... that's where you could potentially loose him. 

just referring to the rules and laws created by man. True soul mates find each other, regardless of what others dictate. 

He changed his mind he is open to the possibility!!!! I told him though I don't want him to say that just for me only if it is what he is feeling. He said it's how he is feeling.  

aww. I'm happy for you. we men are a strange breed that's for sure. commitment is often a challenge due to fear of rejection, failure, ect. blessings to you both.  

That’s awesome Celtic wonder ❤️ 

Good to hear Celtic Wonder!